I wanted to start my blog by introducing myself and parts of my life. Marriage being the most important aside from my personal relationship with God. So here we go:
I was legally married at 16 to my still husband, my high school sweetheart. I still can’t believe we have made it this far, 13 years. The same way I give God all the glory for who I have become as a person since giving my heart to him, I give him credit for my marriage.
God had shown me what a marriage was supposed look like according to his perfect design, but to accept it was a different story. It wasn’t until we gave our hearts to Jesus that our marriage changed. That part was THE hardest because it called us to submit to God’s design and not the worlds. God’s design works if we actually submit.
My husband and I after only being married for 4 years, were going to call it quits and get a divorce. It was just too hard. We were so different. We had nothing in common but our sin of sex before marriage that resulted in a gracious gift of a baby, but it was just too hard being married so young and to someone so different. After 4 years of prayer, leading by example, crying, fasting, and giving up my desire to play the Holy Spirit, give up constantly nagging at him, always playing the “ I’m so much more holy than you”, card, don’t forget the constant pointing of fingers of his sin... I surrendered it all. I was going to give up. I decided to focus on my relationship with God. I let God do what he’s known for, and in his infinite wisdom he was in the works of redemption in my husbands heart. I, was simply in the way. My husband gave his life to Christ 4 years in to our marriage, I’ll never forget, and one day with his permission I will share how, but, he’s never been the same again. It was NOT easy but it was so worth it. God reached out and took us in his hand, because of him we are still married, we are still choosing to be in love and through forgiveness we choose to stay in Love. 5 kids in, we are STILL madly in love and choose to help each other when one is spiritually falling. Being married is hard, without God directing us, we don’t stand a chance against a world that teaches us that we can fall out of love… not true. In a world that destroys Gods perfect design for marriage and roles. We must choose to love, the way God choose to Love us. To forgive, the way God forgave us. To sacrifice, the way he gave his one and only son. I can’t wait to share with you all my heart.
Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word”
To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
Marriage refines us, calls us to repentance. It’s two sinful humans trying to be more like Jesus. If God is our focus...we WILL be ok. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. I want to encourage you. Keep praying, keep pushing forward.
God is good. He really is. Here’s to 14 years coming June.