We live in a world that obsessed over the feelings of women... but what about men? What about our husbands? They matter just as much. Especially husbands and fathers. Their God given responsibility is HUGE. They will give an account for leading their families, for providing and protecting. I personally feel that’s a huge blessing but also a huge reason to help our husbands do their job to their best ability. Have you asked your husband how he’s feeling? Have you asked if he’s ok?
Sometimes, our husbands go through things they don’t want to share. Maybe they are embarrassed, maybe they don’t want to burden us. But our husbands go through trials/issues/hurts/temptations they need help with. We can not assume only women have trials. Since they are men, they don’t need help right? False.
Being that Chris and I have almost been married 14 years… I’ve learned to examine him. I know the look he has when he’s burdened. I jump at the opportunity to help. I know the way he taps his fingers brainstorming, I jump to talk to him. I ask questions. I make sure to always want/do good for him.
Proverbs 31:11-12 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.
I am HIS helper. I make sure to make my home a place where he can find rest from the outside world. I’ve learned different ways to seek his heart. To help him understand whatever he’s going through as much as I’m able. Sometimes he might now want your help but another brother in Christ’s help, don’t be offended. Most importantly apart from praying with him and, for him, I’ve learned to not judge him.
I want to encourage you to be intentional about examining your husband and know when he’s troubled so you can offer to help him. Make your home a haven for him too. Trust me, he will absolutely love coming home if it’s a place of peace and a place for him to open up and know he’s loved. We can not assume that his trials are less than ours because he is a man. The enemy doesn’t rest, he doesn’t respect men or women.
1 Peter 4:10 As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace:
Galatians 5:13 For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.
When he comes home today give him a huge kiss, and a huge hug. Tell him you love him and make that home a haven that will welcome him. Let’s normalize loving our husbands and their mental health too. Forget about the world and what they have to say, men? They matter too. Love them hard.